“Freedom is not given to us by anyone; we have to cultivate it ourselves. It is a daily practice.”
~Thich Nhat Hanh
It’s not easy to make the decision to begin therapy. You will probably have a lot of unanswered questions when you begin this process. Here are some thoughts I have had along the way:
Therapy is collaborative.
The contract between client and therapist involves active participation on both our parts. My role includes bringing expertise to the relationship—a blend of education, training, and personal and professional experience. Your role can include many things: being open to new ideas or practices, observing your thoughts and emotions between sessions, and providing regular feedback.
Therapy is fun at times.
It’s important to reflect on strengths, resiliencies, the times when things are going right. It can feel healing to be able to laugh together.
Therapy is not just talking.
Our minds are intricately intertwined with our bodies. As a therapist, I make use of imagery, breathing, mindfulness, and other mind/body techniques such as Somatic Experiencing.
Therapy should feel worth the time, effort, and expense you put into it.
The work we do should affect your everyday life and sense of well-being. If you feel that our time together does not measure up to what you need, it’s time to renegotiate our contract.
Our first learning about the world, and our first understanding of ourselves, occurs within the context of relationship. I believe it is possible to rewire neural pathways so that a more coherent and meaningful sense of self can emerge.